Sharing a meal is an inseparable part of our culture. As a nation, our celebrations and sorrows often involve gathering around food. The word “sofra” (table) holds a sacred meaning for us, symbolizing unity and togetherness. Ramadan iftars, in particular, are a peak moment of this tradition, not only because of the delicious dishes but also due to the presence of guests. The customs and small gifts given to guests make these gatherings even more special. Here are a few traditions you can revive to make your iftar truly unforgettable.
- Diş Kirası (Tooth Rent)
In the past, it was believed that guests invited to iftar would bring blessings to the host’s home. As a token of gratitude for their presence, hosts would offer “diş kirası”—small gifts like handkerchiefs or coffee cups. To continue this tradition, consider giving your guests small keepsakes as a memento of the evening.
- Pişi at Suhoor
Similar to how helva is traditionally made during special nights, pişi (fried dough) was often prepared for suhoor (the pre-dawn meal). Women would cook pişi specifically for suhoor and share it with neighbors. To modernize this tradition, you could make delicious regional cookies instead, placing them in colorful packages for your guests to enjoy at suhoor, letting your hospitality extend to their morning meal.
- Zimem Notebooks
In the past, good deeds and charity were considered most virtuous when done discreetly. The “zimem defteri” practice was a beautiful example of this: individuals would go to a local shop, ask for the debt ledger, and pay off a random person’s debts within their means. To revive this tradition in a fun way, you can write the names of various charities on small pieces of paper. At the end of the meal, ask each guest to pick a paper and donate as they wish to the selected charity.
- Tekne Orucu (Boat Fasting)
To encourage children to fast, they would observe a half-day fast called tekne orucu. Children would break their fast at noon, receive small gifts, and sometimes adults would even “buy” the child’s fast as a reward. You can carry on this tradition for young guests by preparing small presents for those who fast, allowing them to experience the spirit of Ramadan and gradually introducing them to fasting in a meaningful way.
By incorporating these traditions, you can transform your iftar table into a memorable experience that celebrates the spirit of Ramadan.
